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The cream rises to the top

So much like a tub of beautiful, fresh-from-the-cow milk, the sweetest, richest, things eventually surface if they are left alone to process.

This can be said for cheese and wine and compost piles... And sometimes it can be said about relationships.

Anybody who's been reading this blog knows that I have been head over heels about a certain person for over a year. But sometimes even in the heat of passion and love there's an up-shift, and things get even more amazing and better.

Such is the case with myself and my man. I think some people who read this blog think that I should share his name. I've come close. But he is a very private person and so I am continuing to respect his desires in that regard.

Back to my topic at hand.  Maybe it's just the relaxing of long-term pressure and obligation. He recently, in fact, JUST, retired from his day job. The immediate and amazing impact of the freedom that this seems to have brought him has almost left me speechless.

It's as though everything he did previously was out of fear that he would somehow not perform properly in his job and so he never relaxed because he did not want to be perceived as anything but the best.

And just to be clear, he is always the best at everything he does. He was their best employee. I'm sure they're still trying to figure out what the hell happened because I don't think he gave them much notice when he retired. It was very sudden, and it was all about what he needed. I love that he made that choice and just took action.

It also tells me so much about him.  He makes a decision, and he moves on it. That's a characteristic that he and I share. We both are people who don't utter a word unless we're fairly certain we are going to act on those words. And so, when I observe how he goes through life I feel very proud of him. I feel very, very, proud of him.

And now, in only just the first few days of his retirement, we are having so much fun. We are seeing more of each other. We are making plans to do things out. We are connecting with friends that we couldn't make time for before. We are suddenly free in a way we weren't before.

I'm not retired. But I have a lot of control over my schedule because I have been self-employed for so long. Nonetheless, as I watch him creating what he exactly wants out of his life, I feel so excited for him and honestly, so excited for me, too, as I step into new things in my life.

I think our journeys are beginning to merge in a way that they had not before. I love this idea and the possibility. I love this because I love us. I love that there is an "us."

He has the possibility of an opportunity with an amazing organization. He will hear more about it this week. It is something that I helped connect him with and I feel so excited that it might just be a dream realized for him. My fingers are crossed. I'm fairly confident that it will be unusually exciting for both parties. The idea that I may be able to say that I helped him step into a "bucket list" type opportunity just makes my heart swell with happiness.

He deserves so much appreciation. He has given all of himself for so many years. And yes, he has been recognized many times for what he does. Nonetheless, and not unlike real estate agents, there are a lot of unappreciative people out there looking for somebody to do something for them for nothing. Which is exactly what he gets from everybody he does anything for.

And that's the exact reason why I'm so excited about all of this. Just like the cream in the bucket after the dairy cow has been milked, after some time, the cream rises to the top.

I feel as though his time has come. The cream has risen to the top for him and it's about time that his beautiful gift pays off for him. Yes, the community will benefit from his new position. Yes everybody--most notably animals--will benefit from this successful connection.

But most of all I personally feel as though his soul will be so deeply nourished and addressed and engaged in this new role.  I feel as though it could be a transcendent experience for him. And I think that's what I hope for most of all. He deserves it. He is certainly overdue for such a thing to happen for him.

I know my readers are not necessarily guessing at all the things I'm referring to. I know I am speaking in obtuse terms. If you are one of those people thank you for your patience with my intended filtering. I think that you can appreciate the people that I refer to in these posts without knowing their identity. And I appreciate you for that.

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